"Basic" Sex: The Man On Top Position (Also Known As The Missionary Position)

When you ask people what positions they like to have sex in, the most popular answer from men is "Rear entry" or "Woman on top". Women say they prefer "Woman on top" more than any other sex position. But the odd thing is that we know most people have more sex in the man on top position than any other! Now, just how do you explain that?

I don't really know, but I wonder if people have sex in the man on top position because it's safe, familiar, comfortable and enjoyable, while they secretly think that other positions might be more arousing, more exciting or more satisfying?

Men certainly like the idea of rear entry sex. After all, there aren't many things more sexually exciting than penetrating your partner from behind, watching your penis moving in and out of her vagina while her bottom frames the picture! Yet men often reach orgasm quickly in this sex position, so intercourse doesn't last long, and it may not afford much opportunity for emotional connection with your partner. Women may find the idea of rear entry sex "naughty", raw, passionate or lustful, but in reality it may mean they don't feel very connected with their man.

And woman on top sex is a very different thing to man on top sex - once she's on top, a woman may find herself taking the lead, controlling the pace of sex and determining its rhythm. All these things are exciting once in a while, but perhaps what we really crave is the certainty, the established roles, the security of man on top sex - or maybe it just feels good for both partners?

Yes, that's partly true: it can certainly feel good for men, who can make deep pelvic thrusts, enjoy a sense of dominance over their partner, and have powerful orgasms. But what about a woman's pleasure? Does she get much out of sex in the man on top position? Her clitoris is rarely stimulated, she may not reach orgasm, and she feels the weight of her man on her.....but there are compensations. The couple can look into each others eyes, have extensive bodily contact, and enjoy the emotional rewards of being on top and underneath (in other words - he feels dominant or protective, she feels receiving or protected). Surely, man on top sex reaffirms a man's lustiness and sexual power, and a woman's desirability and sexuality, and in addition, as she permits her man to penetrate her, she feels safe, secure and protected. No wonder it's so popular.