"JUST A BIT OF FUN"

Great Sex: Finding Your G-Spot

The debate over the g-spot seems to never end. Does it exist, is it important, should it be talked about, does it have any usefulness? Definitive answers are rare, so while the experts debate, why not do your own research, and get to the heart (or would it be gheart) of the matter. Many women can stimulate their g-spot using their fingers. Some people will find it easier using a toy that is curved, either a dildo or a vibrator.

Difficulty: N/A

Time Required: You might find your g-spot immediately, or it could take several attempts. Don't pressure yourself.


1. Avoid performance pressure about the "magic spot".

People can become fixated on achieving a sexual goal (multiple orgasms, simultaneous orgasm, g-spot orgasms) One thing I can promise is that this is the best way to NOT enjoy any sort of sexual encounter. Remember that sexual exploration is mostly about the journey, not the destination (although the destination is better than most, I’ll agree). Try not to make this another notch in your “sexually self-actualized” belt.

2. Turn yourself on.

Any homework that starts with this is bound to be somewhat fruitful. The spongy area around the g-spot gets engorged with blood when you’re sexually aroused, so it is much easier to find and feel when you’re turned on.

3. Get comfortable and find the g-spot area.

Lie on your back, squat, or lie on your stomach. Place your palm face down on your vulva and slowly insert a finger inside your vagina (use lube if you’re feeling a little dry), crooking it forward in a “come hither” motion. When you’re up to about the second knuckle you should feel a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina.

4. Notice how the g-spot feels.

The texture of the g-spot area will likely be noticeably different from the typically smooth walls of the vagina. When you’re aroused it can expand, so feel it at different times during your arousal to get familiar with its contours and sensitivity. The g-spot responds to pressure, so press down and pull forward using that "come hither" motion with your fingers.

5. Explore the g-spot with toys.

For some it can be awkward to stimulate the g-spot by hand. A g-spot vibrator or dildo can be a great helper in this. Apply a little lube to your toy, and insert it with the tip (if it’s curved) pointing up toward the top wall of your vagina. Work it in slowly, far enough (a couple of inches) so the tip is pressing against your g-spot.

6. Experiment with pressure and motion.

Some women will find pressure against the g-spot pleasurable, some women like the feeling vibration when a toy is pressing against the g-spot. Experiment and see if either feels good for you. For most women, the g-spot responds to firm pressure. In the beginning, use your toy as if you were trying to scratch an itch—don’t pull the toy all the way out, but use short strokes, applying firm pressure, against the g-spot.

7. Vary the movements.

A circular or back-and-forth motion may be necessary to get you started, but you might soon graduate to a more vigorous thrusting. If you’ve got a vibrator, try playing with the vibrations both on and off to see which you like better.

8. Add clitoral stimulation to g-spot play.

You’ll know you’re hitting the spot as you feel tingly sensations, the urge to pee, and an overall elevation in your arousal. When you feel the urge to come, stimulate your clitoris using your favorite method. Keep stroking your g-spot.

9. Let go.

With continued stimulation, you’ll eventually feel a sensation much like having to pee. This can be quite disconcerting at first, and has probably led plenty of women to abandon the process, but if you stick with it you’ll be in for a pleasant surprise. You may or may not ejaculate, but ejaculation is perfectly normal (and it's not urine).

10. If you don’t at first orgasm, try try again.

It can take several practice sessions before you notice any build up. Try varying your position, using a different toy, experimenting with breathing and kegel exercises (to strengthen your PC muscle), or having a partner help you. Because the g-spot is most responsive when aroused, you may also want to try stimulating it after you’ve had an orgasm.

11. Remember the ear lobe.

Experimenting with the g-spot can be fun, and you never know what you’ll learn in the process. But try not to get hung up on this being a mind-blowing experience. If you’re playing around and it’s not doing anything for you, try something else, and know that there is nothing wrong with you, and what turns us all on is incredibly individual and unique.

"Where is the G-Spot ..."

"Advanced Tips on Oral Sex"

"Are you suffering from painful intercourse?"

Women suffering from painful intercourse don’t feel comfortable to go for a consultation to the physician but face several reproductive problems in their life.

Pain during intercourse is the most sensitive problem amongst women that most of them feel it difficult to consult a physician. But this can be treated as the reason might be some physical illness.

Since a woman plays a major part of the whole reproduction process right beginning from the formation of the ova till giving birth to the child, painful intercourse could be a difficult stage for you to pass. In medical terms, it is known as dyspareunia that leads to tearing, ripping, burning or aching sensation during penetration. This pain could occur at the vaginal opening or deep in the pelvis or anywhere else in between. This could also be felt throughout the pelvic area and sexual organs.

Reasons for pain during intercourse:

1. The most common reason for the irritation during intercourse is insufficient lubrication or arousal that could create a vicious circle leading to a fear among the woman. Women having a hysterectomy or mastectomy can also face this problem with arousal because of the feeling of incompleteness. This could be treated with prompt and proper consultation whereby the physician provides you with lubrication methods that in turn will reduce discomfort.

2. Another factor for painful intercourse is thinning and drying of vaginal tissues when menopause begins amongst women. This occurs due to less production of the estrogen hormone that is needed to maintain vaginal tissue moist. As the ability of the vagina to make its own mucus tissues declines so as it becomes dry, itchy and painful leading to pain during intercourse.

3. Unintentional muscle spasms of the thighs, pelvis and vagina can also make penetration impossible and this stage is known as vaginismus that could develop from any of the above mentioned factors or due to psychological factors. A victim of traumatic sexual experience or rape can also lead to vaginismus and as such counseling can help a lot.

4. Most common reasons for painful intercourse is vaginal, pelvic infection or boils or cysts and boils, tumors, scars or anything that narrows the vagina, uterine tissue growing outside the uterus with bleeding and pain, intact hymen, complications of any past surgery, diseases such as diabetes that interfere with the physical process of arousal or orgasm.

Any of the factors due to less lubrication can be overcome with methods such as lubrication gels, estrogen creams or estrogen replacement therapy in pills.

"Full Body Orgasms"

Tantric philosophy has two seemingly different ideas about orgasm: the physical orgasm and the heart orgasm. At first appearance they may seem dualistic and contrary, but on closer inspection one supports the other perfectly.

On the one hand we are encouraged to be in our hearts 24 hours a day. That bliss-state can be equated to an orgasmic state of being with the energy transferred to all that we are and do during the day. In Tantra it is sometimes referred to as the "right hand path" because certain sects of practitioners achieve this optimum state of being through meditation, yoga, mantra chanting, and celibacy.

One the other hand, which is the "left hand path," sexuality is the vehicle in which one rides to achieve this same bliss-state. Sexuality is used as a form of yoga to go to the deepest spiritual levels one can attain. In other words, the orgasm is used as the gateway to recognize the bliss-state. The individual then has the proper tools to grow that recognition into a powerful path to consciousness.

Modern Tantra recognizes that there are several forms of orgasm. There is the clitoral orgasm, which tends to be very localized to the genitals. There is the vaginal orgasm, which mostly involves the G-spot and a few other locations in the vagina. There is the blended orgasm between the clitoris and the G-spot. This makes perfect sense because under the skin, the clitoris splits into two roots and these roots wrap around either side of the G-spot, which stimulates it directly. And there is the energy orgasm or heart orgasm.

Vaginal orgasms lend themselves to full body orgasmic potential when the breath, the mind and the orgasm itself all form a complete experience. When our bodies get this full-blown experience and when we practice enhancing it with different breath patterns, sounds and "right hand path" techniques, we have the potential to move into multiple orgasms and out-of-body sex. As we begin to go further into this practice one is able to begin to have full body orgasms, or energy orgasms, simply by breathing them, without any physical touch. This powerful energy is then much more available to us in our everyday life, sometimes by simply breathing!

When the two paths are blended the possibilities for personal growth extend exponentially and the dualism vanishes.

"Your First Night"

Of course, no one can teach you how to have sex. But a pre-marital chat on sex will take away a lot of anxiety that you feel. Here's what you can expect.

Men may advertise for virgin girls in their matrimonial ads, but when it comes to the bedroom, they expect you to be a seductress. Yeah, even on the first night. A contradiction, isn't it? As you will realise soon, marriages are a lot about finding balance within contradictions.

Pre-marital counselling:

Not very sought after in India even now, some psychological and clinical advice on sex can help save many a first night from being a passion pooper. Counselling teaches you that passion--an urgent product of desire--doesn't always develop on its own, it is often the hard-won fruit of intimate communication. Have you talked about your first night with your partner? If not, do so; it will help thaw a lot of apprehension. If possible, visit a counsellor and express all your reservations and queries.

The Honeymoon and The Hymen:

"Will I bleed?" "Will it be painful?" These are the most common questions, brides-to-be ask. Despite the fact that many of the urban couples these days have had some pre-marital sexual experience. And despite the fact that most of the educated people know that they hymen can rupture even due to strenuous sports, horse-riding etc, yet, the hymen remains a debatable issue with most couples, leading to much misunderstanding.

The answer to this is fairly simple. If your hymen is still unbroken, yes bleeding can occur (though it doesn't have to), and you may even experience a little pain the first time. But it doesn't last and is almost never anything serious.

Then there is the other area of general ignorance in connection with the hymen. In some cases, it does not even yield to sexual penetration, making intercourse an agonising encounter for the girl, and frustrating for the man. In such cases, the hymen has to be broken with a gynecologist's help. Sometimes a minor surgical procedure is required to make penetration possible, if there prevails a congenital malformation. But since very few couples know of this, it can make them distant and anxious in the initial days of marriage itself.

So whatever your personal experience, your strategy should be not to make a big deal about anything till you know what is causing the anxiety. Even men need to free themselves from the pressure to perform that can become a killing tension on the first night. If you make each other comfortable on the first night itself, good sex is sure to follow.

The Big O:

Since the female orgasm is not associated with ejaculation, many women (and men) develop crazy theories about it, often holding themselves responsible for anything that goes wrong. Chances are that a woman may not be able to achieve orgasm on the first night, because she has to first feel comfortable with her own body, with the intimacy that she develops with her groom, and it is a deep journey into personal uninhibition. It can't be rushed or dutifully fulfilled on the first night. So don't expect the earth or move or time to stand still on your wedding night. It is unrealistic for both of you.

Your libido, as Freud said, is the strongest thing about you. Treat it kindly. And it will stand by you.

Even if your husband is the understanding sort, with multiple expectations, vulnerability, redefinition of your personal space and all the things that marriage brings, the honeymoon can make you very jittery. Unless you are prepared for it.

"Sharing Each Other's Genitals"

Oral sex is both casual and rampant among young people today.

"Many engage in this activity rather cavalierly with friends, or even people they barely know," she writes. "Sharing each other's genitals has become like sharing a cigarette, drink or joint in some circles."

Such declarations are common in many new parenting guides that deal with teen sexuality.

They warn adults that their kids are engaged in new and risky behaviours that the parents never experienced in their own youth.

But are these necessary updates on modern sexuality or alarmist tactics that scare parents into thinking they should do more than just talk about the birds and the bees?

"For parents today, as opposed to 30 or 20 years ago, there is a new reality," said Cory Silverberg, a Toronto-based sex educator and co-owner of Come as You Are. "We are living in an increasingly sexualized culture and youth are exposed to way more sexual content."

The Internet, advertising and pop culture have all led to kids being faced with a swath of new issues, and they are approaching sexuality in a new way, dragging their parents along with them, like it or not.

"The parents aren't prepared for what's going on now," he said, suggesting that adults need to educate themselves about social networking, pop culture and other realities of teenage life that may have an impact on their attitude toward sexuality.

"Cunnilingus: A Sexual Art Form"

Oral sex with your girlfriend is probably one of the most erotic and fulfilling experiences when it comes to sex. The best advice I can give is to relax, take your time. It's all about sexual expression and pleasure.

The act of Cunnilingus is basically the manipulation of the lips and inner folds of the vagina and the stimulation of the clitoris..

This of course doesn't stop the inventive man from feeling his partner's body up. She has inner thighs, breasts and nipples that are just aching to be gently pinched and pulled while tongue and lips massage her intimate spots.

Place your hand underneath her in bed (or wherever you may be laying down!), slip her onto your fingers and let her do the work.

Let her move in the way she wants to move to pleasure herself, in a sense she is fucking your hand.

You may position your fingers onto her clit slightly harder at times to help her out a little but she will press and move harder as and when she wants to

Trust me! When she comes it will be explosive!

"Self-Conscious Sex Is Bad for You"

It seems that women with hypoactive sexual desire - which is a disorder characterized by a continual lack of sexual interest or fantasies - use more brainpower than sexually healthy women in monitoring their reactions and performance during sex.

Don't Think about What You're Doing...Just Do It

It's a vicious circle: Women who pay too much attention to their performance during sex could be inhibiting sexual desire — and that lack of desire increases self-consciousness.

The idea's not new, of course, but now it's got scientific data to back it up. A new study by the Stanford University School of Medicine suggests that women with hypoactive sexual desire [HSDD] - which is a disorder characterized by a continual lack of sexual interest or fantasies - use more brainpower than sexually healthy women in monitoring their reactions and performance during sex.

Researchers used functional magnetic resonance imaging to track brain response to sexual stimuli in 16 HSDD women and 20 women who don't suffer the condition.

Participants were shown clips of erotic films, women's sporting events, and relaxing nature scenes. In addition to the brain scans, the women subjectively rated their levels of arousal while an instrument objectively measured vaginal response.

Their brains lit up in very different ways.

"Many of the HSDD subjects spent their time monitoring their experience, or lack thereof," said Leah Millheiser, one of the lead researchers of the study, which was published in the journal Neuroscience.

"For example, they may have been asking themselves, 'Am I responding correctly?', 'Is this how I am supposed to be feeling?', 'Should I be experiencing more arousal than I currently am?', instead of actually allowing themselves to integrate the information being presented to them in the erotic video."

These women, Millheiser says, may be cheating themselves out of the ability to associate positive emotional memories with sex.

In addition, the results pointed to a disconnect between both groups' subjective ratings and the arousal measurements taken by the vaginal instrument — results that are consistent with those found in other studies.

"Women can experience little subjective arousal, but still have a genital response, meaning vaginal engorgement and lubrication," Millheiser said.

"The reason behind this phenomenon is not well understood. There is a popular theory that women could have developed this response during the evolutionary process to protect the pelvic floor during forced sexual acts for procreation or childbirth."

The study suggests a useful strategy:

"As a female sexual medicine practitioner, I encourage women to 'be in the moment,'" Millheiser said. "That means to focus on the pleasure they are experiencing either by themselves or with their partner.

What I discourage is for women to focus on what they 'think' they should be experiencing. If certain expectations are not met during a sexual situation, this may lead to a negative sexual experience."

"Circumcision Lessens Sexual Pleasure For Men"

In the ninth episode of the second season of "Sex and the City," one young male professional has had enough of being judged - and in some cases, rejected - by women because of his uncircumcised penis, and chooses to undergo circumcision as an adult.

The Foreskin Is a Vital Element in Sexual Intercourse

The foreskin consists of several parts, and performs several key functions in sexual activity and in the penis itself.

The foreskin can be thought of as akin to the eyelids, according to a presentation done by The University of Washington Health Sciences Academic Services & Facilities and George C. Denniston, MD.

The eyes need constant moisture to optimize their function, as well as a covering membrane capable of shielding them from pathogens and unwanted external irritants. The same holds true for the glans of the penis.

As erection occurs, the prepuce turns inside out, unfolding onto the shaft of the penis. During sexual intercourse, the foreskin will continuously retract and then recover over the glans, sliding along the sides of the vaginal wall in the process.

This causes increased stimulation to both male and female, as the penis is essentially sliding in and out of both itself and the vagina, using the prepuce as a sort of “buffer” between the two.

The foreskin, therefore, plays a very important role during sex, keeping both organs moist. Without it, the mushroom shaped glans actually draws moisture from the vagina with each forward and backward motion, increasing abrasion.

To Cut, or Not to Cut? A Touchy Subject

The importance of this question arises for different people in a variety of situations.

Women might have inherited certain beliefs about what men 'ought' to look like, and those beliefs stand to influence their feelings about future possible male sex partners. Men who are uncircumcised have to grapple with being members of an aesthetic minority.

In the ninth episode of the second season of "Sex and the City," one young male professional has had enough of being judged - and in some cases, rejected - by women because of his uncircumcised penis. He chooses to undergo circumcision as an adult, not out of religious considerations at all, but so that he can be more confident during his future sexual encounters.

Sure, many uncircumcised men might experience neither rejection nor 'judgment' from their significant others; but when our culture projects a certain image of physical normalcy that is significantly distinguished from the images we have of ourselves, conflict is likely to ensue.

At www.circumcision.org, it is stated that, "Circumcision is 'normal' among Americans. Normality is associated with cultural values. What is familiar becomes a cultural value. Circumcision is familiar."

It is noted that that our language reinforces what we believe is 'normal'. "For example, the term 'uncircumcised' suggests that to be circumcised is the norm, the standard."

Both men and women who are thinking about starting a family are vulnerable to the need to scrutinize the question of whether or not they genuinely 'agree' with circumcision; and certainly once one is told that "It's a boy" the debate of male circumcision will present itself sooner or later.

So, why are male babies circumcised? There are many reasons for the procedure, some of which are religious, while others are health-related.

None of the reasons for circumcising male babies is based on facts alone; rather, arguments are primarily supported by beliefs and theories about spirituality and/or health. Let's consider some of the most prominent arguments regarding male circumcision:

Pro: Circumcised penises are easier to clean/less likely to become infected/safer from disease. Many elements of this claim seem to be true, but to a nearly insignificant extent. At Kids Health, it is noted that, yes, baby boys who are uncircumcised are ten times more likely to develop urinary tract infections (during the first year of life).

The article goes on to claim that, "However, even with this increased risk of UTI, only one percent or less of uncircumcised males will be affected."

Irritation, inflammation (Balantis), and infection do occur more frequently among uncircumcised men; furthermore, it is easier to clean a circumcised penis (although after the foreskin becomes retractable - around age 5 - any incontestable impediments to self-cleaning are generally alleviated).

Finally, some claim that circumcised males are safer from developing penile cancer, but the margin of difference is extremely slim - and statistically 'insignificant' - because penile cancer itself is extremely rare, in both circumcised and uncircumcised males.

Con: The trauma of undergoing circumcision undermines the long-term emotional and psychological health of males.

There has been lots of research that supports the claim that the physical trauma of circumcision leaves a negative impact on psychological health.

Dr. Ronald Goldman - Executive Director of the Circumcision Resource Center in Boston, MA - has written a book entitled "Circumcision: The Hidden Trauma," in which he shows that, "circumcision has potential effects not only on men and sexuality, but also on mother-child relationships, male-female relationships and societal traits and problems."

Pro: Circumcised men are less likely to develop STDs.

"Some sexually transmitted diseases appear more common in uncircumcised men, others in circumcised men," said Dr. Goldman.

While circumcised men might be more vulnerable to certain STDs - Chlamydia and genital warts in particular - they might have some protection from the most fatal of them all: the human immunodeficiency virus.

Many doctors and researchers have produced evidence that suggests that circumcised men are less likely to contract HIV than men who are uncircumcised.

However, the Cochrane Collaboration has reviewed all the current evidence regarding circumcision and the contraction of HIV and has, "concluded that that there is insufficient evidence to support the idea that circumcised men have less chance of contracting HIV."

Con: Having foreskin allows men to more fully enjoy sex. On the Malehealth website, it is stated that:

"As the only moving part of the penis, the foreskin facilitates sexual activity. It contains nerve endings that play a part in sexual pleasure and its glands produce lubricants that help protect both the head of the penis and [in the case of heterosexual intercourse] the female vagina."

This claim - that the foreskin 'plays a part in sexual pleasure' - is debatable. On the KidsHealth website, the authors write that:

"Some people claim that circumcision either lessens or heightens the sensitivity of the tip of the penis, decreasing or increasing sexual pleasure later in life. But neither of these subjective findings has been proved."

There are many more reasons for and against circumcision - and we haven't even touched upon those that are most controversial - the religious arguments.

But whether or not we come to a conclusion about what is 'right' or 'wrong' in this matter, it is important to challenge the notions we've inherited regarding what's 'normal,' especially when it comes to sexuality.

"How About Sex? Who's Responsible For Contraception? "

There's the situation where he doesn't have a condom and she isn't taking an oral contraceptive, leaving them with the choice of either not having sex at all, or having unprotected sex. Both options are bad, and usually couples will have sex anyway.

Who's Responsible for Contraception - the Man or the Woman?

Having sex for the first time with a new partner is always an exercise in silent negotiation.

Issues such as who will take the dominant role or when the undressing will begin abound and are often worked out using body language, eye contact, and other non-verbal communication cues.

Although these stealthy tools are enough to successfully answer most of the questions that arise during those initial moments of sexual bliss, the issue of contraception is not and should not be one of them.

Don´t Rely on Your Partner to "Take Care Of" Contraception

Unfortunately many women still rely on the man to bring a condom, and many men still rely on the woman to be "on the pill."

Obviously this can lead to a very unfortunate situation in which he doesn't have a condom and she isn't taking an oral contraceptive, leaving them with the choice of either not having sex at all, or having unprotected sex.

Both of these options are bad, and more often than not couples will choose to have sex anyway.

This decision not only increases their chances of an unwanted pregnancy, but also of acquiring an unwanted sexually transmitted infection such as HIV or herpes.

Remember condoms should not only be used to prevent pregnancy but to prevent the spread of STD´s as well!

The easiest way to avoid having to make such a hormonally charged decision is for both partners to take equal responsibility for having a condom on their person - be it in a pocket, a purse, a sock, where ever.

Even though it´s the man who wears it, the woman gets just as many benefits from its use, and she should feel comfortable taking the initiative to safeguard her own health and well being.

In fact some condom companies are marketing male condoms directly to women by using sexy packaging and imagery in order to promote this healthy habit.

Oral contraceptives do not prevent the spread of sexually transmitted infections and should not be the only form of protection used between new lovers.

It´s also important to remember that many women rightfully refuse to use oral contraceptives because of the negative side effects they experience while taking them or because of other health concerns.

For example women with a familial history of strokes are advised not to use oral contraceptives.

An even greater number of women discontinue using "the pill" during periods of prolonged abstinence - such as between relationships.

So even if she has used oral contraceptives with her past lovers, there´s a good chance that she is not currently using them if this is your first time having sex with each other!

Never assume a woman is using an oral contraceptive. If you are unsure, ask her.

If you are both ready to have sex, then you should be able to have an honest conversation about contraception.

She Not the Only One Deciding If Contraception Should Be Used

Another very common, and I think disturbing, trend is many men will leave it completely up to the woman to "stop" the progression of sexual activity in order to demand the use of a condom, instead of simply putting the condom on himself without needing to be told to do so by his partner.

This behavior unfairly shifts the responsibility of condom use fully onto the woman, and implies that without her demand, he would happily have sex without using a condom at all.

Why are women stereotypically placed in the sexually "responsible" role? Aren't men just as concerned about their own health as women?

Then shouldn't men be equally as likely to "stop" the sexual activity in order to use protection?

The usual justification for this scenario is that men get "carried away" in the heat of the moment and "forget" about the consequences of their sexual behaviors, whereas women do not get swept away by their sexual passions and are therefore the ones who must be "responsible" for them both.

This argument is based upon too many incorrect culturally-bound assumptions regarding female sexuality to explore in this article.

Suffice to say that women are equally as "impassioned" as men, and should not be the only ones who decide whether or not contraception will be used.

The "heat of the moment" is not an excuse for irresponsible sexual behavior for either women or men.

" 10 Fun Sex Facts"

A recent visit to Manhattan's legendary Museum of Sex yielded more than a mob of 18 year-old girls giggling in the foyer -- it provided an entertaining and education look into the history of sex.

Here are some little-known sex facts that may surprise you – or at least give you ammunition for a fascinating dinner conversation!

1. The best medicine...

According to the Museum of Sex, the vibrator was originally used as a medicinal treatment for female "hysteria" during the 19th century. The vibrator-induced orgasms helped doctors dissipate hysteria's anxiety-related symptoms.

2. Say cheese!

Semen contains zinc and calcium, both of which are proven to prevent tooth decay.

3. Hop to it.

The iconic "Rabbit" is renowned for two things: excellent results and an odd smiley face on its tip. Women's Health tells us the smiley face was actually a result of conservative Japanese customs. Apparently, Japanese consumers frown upon "the production of sex toys that too closely resemble phalluses," so the smiley face was added.

4. Does he measure up?

The average size of an erect penis is 5 inches, and the average flaccid penis measures about 3 inches.

5. The sad truth.

While this fact is neither entertaining nor humorous, it’s shocking to note that homosexuality remained on the American Psychiatric Association's list of mental illnesses until 1973.

6. Protect our troops.

Today the government issues "Support our Troops" paraphernalia; however government-issued brochures and videos featured a slightly different slogan during the WWII era – "Don't forget – Put it on before you put it in." During the Second World War, many soldiers returned home with venereal diseases, costing the government millions of dollars in medical expenses.

7. Work it.

Hate the gym? You burn about 200 calories during 30 minutes of active sex.

8. What a tease!

Burlesque costumes are the epitome of sexy – think Dita Von Teese and lingerie; however, a few centuries ago, the outfits had a slightly different purpose. According to the Museum of Sex, merkins (the bottom half of burlesque costumes) were originally created as "pubic wigs" for 15th century prostitutes. The designs helped hide pubic lice and syphilis symptoms. Make sure to share this information with your boyfriend the next time he heads to Vegas with the boys.

9. Justice is served.

In Hong Kong, adulterous husbands get more than a steep monthly alimony payment – a betrayed wife is legally allowed to kill her husband if he cheats on her – but she may only do so with her bare hands.

10. Whatever happened to Southern comfort?

The sale of sex toys and vibrators is banned in Alabama and Mississippi.

"Side By Side Sex Positions"

Side by side sex with the partners facing each other is probably the most common sex position apart from man on top, woman on top and rear entry.

The easiest way to get it to the sex position shown in the first photograph above is to start in the man on top missionary position and then roll over onto your sides, with the woman's legs high up as shown. It's easy to do this with your penis still in her vagina, so the flow of your lovemaking need not be interrupted. But why would you want to go over onto your sides in this way? well, for one thing, snuggling, kissing, cuddling and saying loving things to each other is both intimate and sexy, and this is an ideal position in which to do it, since there is no stress or strain on your muscles as you lie there. After you have made love in this position, which, by the way, tends to produce strong orgasms because of the long build up before you come, you can doze off with your penis still in her vagina - very sexy and a beautiful way to end your lovemaking.

You can also go into her from the rear when you are making love in the side by side position. This is easier if you have a longer penis, and somewhat more difficult if you are on the shorter side. You can enjoy many of the benefits of rear entry sex positions with less strain and, perhaps, less intense arousal - it's a sexual position that fits when the sexual passion is not running so high! Once again, you have the ability to fondle and caress each other's bodies, and the man can kiss his partner's back, which may be extremely sexy for the woman. Thrusting is a bit more restricted than it is in the rear entry position, but this will slow sex down and make it last longer as well.

Both partners are likely to find cuddling from behind very sexy - the close proximity of his genitals to her vulva and her buttocks to his penis will most likely turn on both partners if they lie together like this for any length of time.

If you want to introduce a bit of spice into the side by side routine, you can try a few sexual positions like the ones shown above. They'll have the effect of changing the tightness of her vagina and producing some interesting sensations for both of you.

The basic side by side sex positions are restful, romantic, and sensuous, it's true, but they have many other advantages as well. For a start, they allow a man to maintain his erection and last a long time. This is partly because he can't thrust as much in this position (which always tends to make a man come quickly), and partly because his partner's vagina wraps tightly around his penis, so keeping him erect. Small movements of either partner's body during sex serve to keep their sexual arousal high but aren't so stimulating that either his arousal or hers spirals rapidly out of control - this way, a man won't have any fear of coming quickly.

Then, if either partner leans back, that is to say, if they move their upper bodies away from each other (as they are lying on their sides), they can get a good look at each other, play with each other's breasts and nipples, fondle each other's buttocks, and, best of all, look down and see the sheer sexiness of his penis entering her body.

Either partner can give her clitoris the attention it deserves, arousing her slowly - or quickly, depending on how turned on she is - so that simultaneous orgasm while he has his penis inside her vagina becomes a real possibility.

With a bit of a stretch, she can reach around and feel his penis and balls; he can do the same, enjoying the wetness of her vulva and the feel of his penis sliding in and out of her body.

If a couple lean in towards each other, they can kiss, embrace and snuggle up to each other, which can produce a strong sense of intimacy and connectedness. Side by side is a loving, gentle position, in which either partner can make the hip thrusts that keep the physical sensation alive as the emotional connectedness increases.

There aren't many disadvantages to sex in the side by side position. Depending on what you think of as a disadvantage, some aspects of this kind of sex may not appeal to you, but this is a matter of personal taste rather than anything else. For example, rampant hard thrusting is not possible, as the positions are geared to more gentle lovemaking. But you can achieve deep penetration, good ejaculatory control, close touch and intimacy, and long-lasting lovemaking very satisfactorily. One great advantage is that if you're not very supple, it may be a lot easier to enjoy the side by side sex position than the man on top or woman on top positions. Side by side sex puts less strain on the lovers and require slightly a lot less physical effort than, say, straightforward man on top or woman on top positions do.

And, by the way, if you're pregnant or fat, side by side sex is a great position for a woman with a large belly!

"Other Sex Positions"

Watching the movements of intercourse can be very thrilling for both partners, but especially so for men. Any position you are able to lift your body off hers and see your penis will give you extra pleasure. To get these visual thrills, you can't beat sex in the position shown in the photograph. When you vary the speed of your thrusts, it can be even more exciting; if your partner is watching as you thrust, you're likely to feel powerful, very masculine and extremely potent!

For powerful thrusting, this sexual position is just the ticket. If it's a hard 'n' horny, down 'n' dirty ride that you're looking for, try asking her to turn so that she lies with her feet over the side of the bed, her buttocks positioned just at the edge of the bed, and brace your feet against something as you thrust into her as she lies there with her vulva wide open.

This position gives the woman a thrill by allowing her to express her desire to be exhibitionist and daring! And of course having her pelvis opened up like this will produce a different set of sensations for her. It's more likely to stimulate her G spot, gives ample access to her clitoris, and allows both you and her the thrill of seeing your penis glistening with her juices as you thrust. All in all a very sexual and sexy position, but it can make some women feel vulnerable since all the action is with the man. If you're a woman who feels like this, make sure you let your partner know how you're feeling when you want to change to a more comfortable position.

In the sitting sex position shown here, a couple will feel more equal in their sexual roles. They can embrace each other with a great sense of physical and emotional connection and they will feel intimately bonded, especially if they gaze into each other's eyes. Although both partners' ability to make hip thrusts is rather limited, this sitting sex position is perfect for tranquil, tender and slow lovemaking.

This is a sexual position that allows a man to feel in charge when you're enjoying more vigorous lovemaking. It's great when you want to feel powerful and perhaps enjoy a sense of your rampant masculinity. You can get deeper penetration when your partner arches her back slightly so her vagina is raised and open. You can make this easier if you lift and support your partner's pelvis, while pulling her slightly towards you. Many women like to have their buttocks parted in this position, which will gently stretch and open their anus. Thrusting in this position creates strong sensation in her vagina, to which you can add by supporting her with one hand while you use the other to play with her clitoris.

When a woman wants to get down and dirty, there's no better way for her to express her burgeoning sexual needs by riding her man in the sitting or woman on top sex positions. She's free to move fully around, up and down, sideways: in fact, she can move in any way she likes, and she can raise and lower herself on her man's penis, bringing him great pleasure, while she ensures he penetrates her as deeply as she wishes. It's a powerful sex position in every way, and it's better than the classic woman on top position where she rides her man in a squatting position since she doesn't have the same strain on her legs. She can also give her clitoris the extra attention it needs to bring herself off, perhaps combining this with powerful thrusting against her G-spot.

If she turns round and faces her man, there's the added dimension of being able to kiss and look into each other's eyes as you move towards your orgasms. Again, the slight parting of her buttocks that her squatting position produces can feel very sexy and exciting for her. With all such positions, penetration can be very deep. The woman should lower herself carefully onto your penis; until you have established a suitable rhythm you'll want to go slowly so as to avoid jarring her cervix. To maintain the squatting position shown here, the woman needs to be quite supple and flexible in her hips and thighs. She may find it easier to kneel astride you. You can then surrender to the pleasure of what she's doing by lying back and enjoying it!

There are four more variations of familiar sex positions shown here. When you're making love, it's important to prepare properly for the moment of penetration since it signals a move from sensual play to serious, intimate connection. In the first two pictures, the couple are just playing: he has not penetrated her, but they are moving towards more intimate connection. Similarly, both you and your partner need to be ready for the physical and psychological transition to this deeper position of intimacy: above all, don't rush it. If you are both ready for penetration, you'll be fully aroused - she will have a swollen vulva, her labia will be a deeper color, her vagina will be moist with her natural lube - and your penis will be hard and fully erect, perhaps producing droplets of pre-come. You can put your hand down to her vulva to see how wet she is: she may also show you that she is ready for penetration with small wave-like motions of her hips, or even powerful thrusting movements. She may moan and press her vulva against your hand when you touch her. These are all signs that she is psychologically and physically ready for penetration, but you should still ask her if she is ready for you, or ask her if you can enter her. This gives her a sense of control over the moment of penetration - the most psychologically vulnerable moment in a woman's life. And if you have any difficulty entering her, simply guide your penis into her with your hand or ask her to position herself so that you can get in more easily. You can even ask her to guide your penis in: this can be extremely sexy!

Lastly just for fun, to make your sex relation memorable...........

"Is Other Sex Positions Necessary Besides The Basic Positions?"

Why "other" sex positions? Well, if your sex life isn't packing a punch any longer, and you want a bit of orgasmic intensity in your intimate relationships, new sex positions can help you find the excitement that's gone missing. You're going to come back to the place you know well (rear entry sex, man on top sex, or woman on top sex), for sure, but in between the old favorites, you can spice up your sex life with something a bit different. But when all's said and done, new sex positions basically have to be variations of the sex positions you know and love already - after all, there are only so many ways you can put a penis into a vagina!

What's different about these sex positions is that because you approach sex from a different angle, you'll get a different sensation as you thrust or as she bucks her hips when you're into each other. The different sensations of sex come chiefly from the angle of penetration, the depth of penetration, and the degree of friction. Yes, you need to be into each other in your heads too, to get the most out of sex, but assuming that you're in bed with a partner you find desirable, sexy, and who gets you aroused, the physical pleasure of the sexual positions you try will depend on the interplay of penis size, vagina size, erection angle, vaginal tightness, how wet she is, and so on....

"Disadvantages Of Sex In The Woman On Top Position!"

The man's ability to make hip thrusts is rather limited, though this may be a big advantage if it slows down his progress towards ejaculation and orgasm!

Men who need to be in control may find they feel uncomfortable when they have sex in the female-dominant position.

Men who have a hard, upright erection that lies against their belly may not be comfortable in the reverse woman on top, i.e., woman on top sex where the woman faces away from the man. The angle of the penis tends to be rather bent down in a way that is unnatural for the harder, smaller erection (or indeed a larger one that has the same sharp upward angle).

If the woman is squatting over her partner as she rides him, she may find that her knees and thighs are under some strain. But there are plenty of variations which will allow her to take a more relaxed position.

Some couples feel that this sexual position is less intimate. But sometimes you just need a raunchy session of fun in bed!

Although it's hard to think of any real disadvantages of this position, there is one danger worth mentioning: if she's riding him so hard that she comes off his penis, then descends downwards before she can stop herself, so that she squashes his cock between her perineum and his body, it can result in a penile fracture, a painful and potentially damaging injury which needs emergency medical attention. You'll know if this has happened since the pain is excruciating, and the sound of the wall of the fibrous internal erectile chamber of the penis snapping is rather loud!

"Advantages Of The Woman On Top Sex Position!"

All the variations of woman on top sex are powerful positions for a woman. She has the dominant role, so she can control the pace and the speed of sex, the depth of thrusting, and the angle of penetration. All of these factors allow her to enjoy sex more by making it into an experience that allows her to satisfy her desire for pleasure and giving her control over the exact interaction of penis and vagina that gives her the most pleasure.

She can lean forward or backward as she chooses to allow his erect penis to stimulate her G-spot to best advantage. By spinning things out - usually by slowing the pace of sex down to suit herself - she may stand a much better chance of getting more aroused and having an orgasm before her partner has come.

What's more, this sex position allows her to tease her partner to distraction by raising and lowering herself on his erect penis as she kneels or squats over him. Such slow teasing, especially with shallow thrusts, can again give her a feeling of sexual power and a sense of control - not to mention the fact that her man will be entirely at her mercy when she has him in this position!




Men often find woman on top sex positions very restful - instead of leading, initiating and controlling sex, while simultaneously worrying about how quickly they are going to come, they can lie back and enjoy receiving their partner's loving attention - a luxurious, sensuous, and for most men, extremely pleasurable experience. A woman who can sense when her man is about to ejaculate, and then slow things down so that sex lasts even longer, will be rewarded by the intensity of her partner's ejaculation and orgasm when she finally rides him to orgasm. This sense of control can be extremely arousing for her as well.

It's a position that allows men to relax and in turn pay more attention to their partner's whole body. Instead of centering on her vagina and clitoris, they can stoke, caress and kiss her whole body - things which can be very important to a woman, who does not necessarily want to come at the expense of being touched all over.

The couple can kiss as they make love if she lies full-length on top of him, effectively turning this into a woman on top missionary position. This sex position also allows her to move her legs together and apart, which will tighten and relax her vagina, giving him more pleasure (though also making him come more quickly) the tighter it is. But the sensations as she does this can be almost unbearable for him - unbearably pleasurable, that is!

She can face away or towards her man, which will produce different sensations on her G-spot and allow her to choose exactly which variation of sex in this position she finds most satisfying.

If the woman rides her man while facing him, he can caress her breasts, body, clitoris and buttocks, and, with a bit of a stretch, reach down and feel his penis sliding in and out of her vagina.

When a woman rides her man while facing away from him, he can see his penis sliding in and out of her vagina, so he'll enjoy the sight of his lubricated penis penetrating her repeatedly. This can give him the sheer raunchy pleasure of the rear entry sex position, but his penis doesn't place the same level of friction on his partner's G spot and vagina as it does in straightforward rear entry, which can sometimes be uncomfortable for a woman. This mostly depends on the size and shape of her partner's penis. If he is especially well-endowed, she will also avoid the discomfort of the very deep penetration that results from rear entry sex. All in all, sex in this position is a great combination of rear entry and woman on top.

Since a woman can control the pace and power of the thrusts, she may well be able to find a position in which she can stimulate her clitoris so that she reaches orgasm during penetration.

For men who favor breasts over buttocks in their partner (in the sense that they are more turned on by breasts than buttocks, I mean!), woman on top sex in the woman facing forward position provides a delightful opportunity to fondle and cup her breasts. With a bit more effort, the man can lean forward and kiss and suck on her nipples, which may add to his partner's arousal and pleasure.

"Woman On Top Sex Positions"

Woman on top sex positions are the counterpoint of the man on top positions: a reversal of roles which can turn sex into a sizzling, fizzing session of orgasmic excitement. Woman on top positions allow both partners to experience the other side of their natures: for the woman, the dominant, "Give it to me now, I'm in charge" power of leading and controlling; for the man, the more passive "I'm just going to lie back and let you have me" feeling of being taken by his woman.


It's an exciting position for sex, not just because it rings the changes, but because it does things no other position can do. Sure, there's the role reversal we talked about above, but there's much more to the popularity of woman on top sex than just its different flavor. For one thing, a woman who's riding her man's cock has the power to lean and move into the positions that make his penis tickle her G-spot. She's going to get much more pleasure from sex in this way: add in the fact that she can grind her clit against his body, and you have a recipe for a woman reaching orgasm during penetration. This might not be everyone's hottest shot, but for those women who have difficulty reaching orgasm during vaginal intercourse and who want the pleasure of throbbing around their man's erection as they come, it's no small deal.

There's another thing too: a woman's sexuality, when aroused, is just as intense - if not more so - than a man's, yet it rarely gets a chance to show itself in its full glory. So here's the ideal position for a display of sheer wantonness, of intense female sensuality at its most overt - a rousing, glorious celebration of female sexuality and female sexual power.

Pretty much all of the sex positions illustrated on this page allow a woman to pleasure her clit with the friction of rubbing on her partner's body, and to stimulate her G spot with her partner's penis in any way she chooses: she has the dominant position, she doesn't have the weight of her partner on top of her, and she can move much more freely. It's up to her, but if she wants to take her pleasure, then this is the position in which to do so.



So here's the first one for you to try. It's the one we all think of when we hear the words "Do you want to go on top, darling?" The woman sits on her man, almost in a kneeling position; he has his legs either outstretched flat on the bed, or he brings them up slightly at the knees - this increases his feeling of contact with her body and can add an extra sexy spice to the position as his balls press against her vulva!

She can lean either forwards or backwards in whatever way most suits the couple's penis and vagina - the angle of his dangle and the angle of her vagina will together determine which of these positions is the one that gives you the biggest sexual thrills! But most likely if you're a man graced with a hard stiff cock which has a tendency to stick straight up along your belly when it's erect, you won't be able to accommodate the positions shown here, where the woman is leaning back: sex in this position will simply bend your penis too far to be comfortable. You can work out how far you as a couple can go - but she's likely to want more of this than you are, because it presses your penis on those delightfully sensual areas of her vaginal wall - the ones that are most stimulated by sexual thrusting.

So the next pics show another take on the same deal: having her lean forward. This is the sexual position for when you're both feeling intimate and sexy. You can kiss, cuddle, enjoy the sensations of your bodies pressing against each other, fondle breasts, buttocks, and balls, and reach down to play with her clitoris and feel yourself entering her vagina. And she still has flexibility with her legs - she can move them back or forwards as you see here to get the greatest pleasure:


To take the woman on top sex position a step further, you can adapt it to an "edge-of-the-bed-woman-on-top" scenario. See the first picture below. She's got loads of thrusting pelvis power and she can ride you just as fiercely as she likes. For you as a man, accustomed to taking charge in the man on top or rear entry sexual positions, this kind of position can be a great relief - at last, you can just lie back and enjoy it! And enjoy it you will - it's so exciting to feel her hotness and wetness riding up and down your shaft: in fact, it's an experience that can transport you to a different level of sexual pleasure. When you add in the fact that she can ride you back and forth and move her hips in a circular pattern as well, it's no mystery why the woman on top position seems to be a hot favorite of almost everyone!

And for more thrills how about turning woman on top into a sitting sex position? Woman on top sex makes it easier to move into other positions than just about any other position in the sexual repertoire. And if you read the page on sitting sex, you'll know that it's wonderfully intimate, cuddly, and emotionally connecting (and great for making sex last a long time, too!). here's how you might do it:

Now, see the point about how flexible your penis has to be to take this position. Not all men will be able to do this, and fewer will be able to enjoy it:

Here's a thought - you like the sight of her bottom while you make love, right? It's what makes sex in the rear entry position so wonderful for men - the powerful stimulus of her buttocks inviting your cock into that moist crevice! OK, well how about combining the best of the woman on top sexual position with the best of the rear entry position - have a look at this punchy position:

And why would you want to make the positions below part of an excursion into woman on top sex? Well, just for fun, really, to see if they press your buttons and give you a greater thrill.

"Anal Sex Positions"

Anal sex is a firm favorite with many men and women - and there are lots of sex positions in which you can try it.

Whether or not you like the idea, anal sex is very popular - almost two thirds of couples have tried it or do it regularly (and that's just the ones who admit it!). And with good reason, too, for the anus is rich in sensitive nerve endings that can add an extra thrill to the pleasure of sex - not to mention the fact that something so forbidden, something so naughty, takes us into a whole realm of taboo-breaking.

And why's it so popular? Well, in any position sex up the anus has one big advantage for both men and women - it's tight up there! There's nothing a man likes more than a tight hole to penetrate, and they don't come much tighter than the anus. Of course it wasn't made for entry, just exit, so there's some skill in reversing the traffic up this one way street: and sex positions are a more important factor in anal pleasure than in any other form of sex.

You've heard all the warnings, I'm sure - about not transferring shit from the anus to the vagina, using a condom because the rectum easily transmits viruses and bacteria (we're talking AIDS here), washing well, and using plenty of lube. Once you've got all that out of the way, you need to take up the right position for anal penetration.

If you want a straightforward anal thrill, the classic rear entry sex position is the way forward, so to speak. If you're experienced in anal sex, you'll be able to push in slowly, using lots of lube, until you're past the resistance of the inner anal sphincter. There may be a feeling of needing to poo, but hopefully this will pass quickly. If your partner's not into douching, you might want to use a condom to avoid getting shit on your cock. If you're not experienced in anal sex, you might want to try with a finger first, to get the feel of it.

Short fingernails are essential if you're a man going in by the backdoor. It's fun to start by massaging around your partner's anus, gently probing the center of her sphincter muscle with a few teasing strokes as you move your well-lubed fingers over the opening. If she can relax into this, the feelings it produces can be very sensuous and enjoyable. If she objects on the basis that this is just too dirty a place to play around, try washing together in the shower beforehand, running your fingers around and up into the anal canal while under the water jets so you can clean up before trying anything more.

As your partner relaxes, you can gradually insert more than the tip of your finger into her, moving it around in circles as you do so. You can gently begin to stretch the anus, moving your fingers around in a circular pattern as you do so.

What you're aiming for is to get her relaxed enough to be able to take your penis without clenching up. Her main fear is that she's not going to be big enough, or maybe that she'll shit on you. You'll need to reassure her that this isn't likely to happen - and even if it does, so what? You can easily clean up in the shower.

So: what of anal sex positions? They're mostly the same as vaginal sex positions, except that rear entry takes on a new meaning! You can do the rear entry position while you're kneeling, as shown here, standing, or lying on the bed. All you have to do is position yourselves so that you're aiming for her anus rather than her vagina.

As always, athleticism counts for a lot! If she's flexible, and you're; strong, this can be a great way to enjoy a vigorous session of anal penetration....

If you're not, you'll probably want to try something more achievable like the anal version of the side by side sex position as shown here.

And it follows that you can do anal while you're lying down, too. Since a lot of women feel very vulnerable in this position even when they're being penetrated vaginally, you might want to give some thought to reassuring your partner and telling her how much you love her (and how grateful you are for the privilege of being in this position!)